Showing posts with label Christmas. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Christmas. Show all posts

Monday, 12 December 2016

Oh Christmas Tree...




Christmas is always a time of year where a variety of mixed emotions are running high.
Trying to save money to buy presents for all your loved ones and trying to keep on top of bills can cause stress to creep in, including remembering our loved ones who have passed, not to mention the effect of the dark nights upon us. Christmas in fact can be quite a stressful, depressing and lonely time for some of us.

Whilst I’ve always dealt with a touch of SAD Syndrome (Seasonal Affective Disorder), a very common condition that causes the individual to have symptoms of depression due to the lack of sunlight, I’ve always enjoyed Christmas.
If I’m feeling the symptoms of S.A.D syndrome I know what to do to control it and to counter-act the effects because I’ve always experienced it, even as a child.  

“We’re not at a place where mental health is discussed as openly as the weather...”


As winter has progressed I’ve been hearing about more and more people feeling ‘low’, or feeling ‘panicky’ and likely dealing with S.A.D syndrome. However, these are people who have never really experienced mental health issues before, and now don’t know what to do about how they’re feeling. They feel different, trapped and afraid. It can feel like you’re losing your identity, and that’s terrifying. This is why the stigma attached to mental health acts as a barricade to those who need help. 
If mental health was discussed as much as the common cold, then it wouldn’t be such a struggle to deal with.
Unfortunately, we’re not at a place where mental health is discussed as openly as the weather whilst waiting for a bus, or casually brought up as a reason why you’ve been absent from work. We always give a different excuse for why we are not being ‘ourselves’, “I’m tired” or “I’m not feeling well’’ is usually the excuse for what we really want to say.
We’re actually quite like the Christmas tree.
We are like the tree with different branches of personality. 
However, we decorate our branches with a façade of false emotions, and we pretend to be happier and more cheerful than we really are.
We create a delightful image of joy and what we think it means to be happy. But a lot of us are decorating ourselves to conceal the rough bark of our minds, and the painful jab of our pine needle thoughts.
Why do we weigh ourselves down with these false decorations? Why can’t we talk about how heavy we feel with these false pretences?
We see other people who are ‘happy’ and fear that if we do come forward to speak up that we would be the only ones to do so. Coming forward to speak up about mental health can have more positive effect than you can imagine. You can encourage and help others with their own mental health by becoming an advocate for your own well-being.
By doing so you’re contributing to removing the stigma attached to mental health.
Mental health doesn’t discriminate. We’re all Christmas trees from the same forest, we can all experience the same thoughts, feelings and emotions. It is up to us to let others



“We’re all Christmas trees from the same forest, we can all experience the same thoughts, feelings and emotions.”


I’ve come to realise that when I speak openly about my mental health I find that others come forward too to speak about theirs, and there’s such liberation in that.
Isn’t it time to put our real selves forward this Christmas? It’s okay to admit that we may not want to drink alcohol because it makes us feel worse, and it’s okay to say you need time to yourself to rejuvenate. 
Give yourself the present of honesty and self-care as this New Year begins.

It is important to not blind those around us with our twinkling lights - and realise that we can be all vulnerable and scared, but by coming together we can create a forest of strength that doesn’t allow the mental health stigma to cause damage like an invisible wild fire. We can look out for each other by empowering ourselves to look after our own mental health and stand forward and challenge the social stigma.




















Sunday, 21 December 2014

Nuremberg Markets

Coming to Nuremberg makes me I feel like part of me is coming home. Whether it's due to the fact that my boyfriend lives here or because the city of Nuremberg is surrounded by historic walls, just like my home city of Derry, I think it's a very rare, but a beautiful thing, to have a sense of familiarity in a city I've only visited a couple of times. Perhaps I lived here in a past life?

I'm currently perched on the edge of the Rudolf red sofa in my boyfriend's apartment, right in the middle of this picturesque city of Bavarian Nuremberg, and I'm so content. I've had the most relaxing long weekend of napping, eating, snuggling and of course, soaking up the atmosphere of the infamous Nuremberg Christkindlesmarkt. So before we head back home to Derry for Christmas I just want to share with you a little insight to our festive weekend.


 
The tiniest tea-sets for a doll's house.



Camel at the Nativity Scene




Enjoying our Glühwein (Mulled Wine)





I hope you've enjoyed this little peek into what it's like in Nuremberg during this time of year.

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Wednesday, 27 November 2013

Festive Eyes

I love experimenting with makeup, and I love changing my makeup to suit my mood, a theme and the season. Now that it's Christmas time I'm loving experimenting with metallic eyes. In the photos I show how a metallic eye can be so versatile by using different colours of lipstick for those glamorous nights out. By keeping my eyes the same, yet changing the colour of my lips, I was able to create various romantic, gothic and classic looks. Have a look and let me know which is your favourite look. 



Metallic Eye





 1st Look
I decided to use a soft pink lip for a romantic and feminine look perfect for Christmas day.












2nd Look
With the red lips I created a vampish look, this would be perfect for a girls' night out.

 







                              3rd Look
Using a dark purple I swayed with a slight gothic look,another ideal look for a chic Christmas party.
  





                                        4th Look
Using a hot pink colour I created a very fun and edgy look, perfect for NYE




                                                                      

                                 5th Look
If you're not into wearing dramatic lip colours why not go for a neutral colour that can be worn during the day and night.



All the makeup I've used is a mix of drugstore and highstreet makeup. If you've any questions please contact me at Ladychuckz@hotmail.co.uk

Thank you for reading!

C x

Sunday, 24 November 2013

It's beginning to look a lot like Christmas

Yesterday my mama and I decided to start some Christmas shopping. Although a Saturday can be quite hectic in town, I enjoy the atmosphere nonetheless. Feeling excited about Christmas I decided to put on a festive red silk playsuit I've had since last year and my favourite coat, a reliable and durable trench coat I bought a few years back. It has been even featured in a few photo shoots. I wore a pair of knee high boots with my coat and a black hat to add a little casual touch. I love nothing more than a good coat and a nice pair of boots.





Cameo Brooch

Ironically, when I came down the stairs my mama was standing waiting on me with her own Trench coat on, of course it was a perfect photo opportunity because we were like Sherlock Holmes and his confidant, Dr Watson.




Wednesday, 26 December 2012

Jewel Tones and a new king on his throne...

Those who know me personally will know that I've always been a rocker at heart, and I would never usually leave the house without my leather jacket or some form of 'Rock N' Roll' attire, usually inspired by my Rock idols, namely Slash, Axl Rose and Phil Lynott.  There was a time when I was never seen without my fingerless leather gloves, I wore them everywhere. I love reminiscing on the days where I went out dressed like Axl Rose.  Now that I'm older and inspired by Parisian culture and anything thematic of an era or culture, I like to deviate from my Rock n Roll side for a while, but not for too long. Yesterday, Christmas day called for an excuse to dress up. My entire outfit is from Primark, I have no qualms about where I get my clothes from, if I like it, I'll buy it.  Shockingly enough I'm not wearing black. This is proof that I'm evolving from my Rocker side.





Thursday, 13 December 2012

The Colour Purple

I read Alice Walker's 'The Colour Purple' for A-level English and I loved it. The story is set against the backdrop of the colour purple, and for me, this colour has a multitude of  symbolic meanings.  For Celie, our protagonist, it's the work of God, her only solace in her life of suppression as a black woman in the early 1900s in a black man's world first and then a white supremist world secondly. Celie says"I think it pisses God off if you walk by the colour purple in a field somewhere and don't notice it" (1983:117) The colour purple is significantly threaded throughout the book as a thread of hope for Celie. The colour purple is the colour of hope, of change and of new horizons. It's the colour that represents femininity and the dissolution of male dominance and the growth of womanity.

 For having loved this books and the growing strength of Celie and the significance of the colour purple, I actually hate the colour purple. I never wear it, nor do I feel that it's a representative for my personality. However, upon remembering my love the Alice Walker's 'The Colour Purple' I felt that I should experience the change that this colour brought for Celie and the growth of sisterhood in the novel. So today, I wore the colour purple, and I felt new and that I represented the woman of the novel. Although I'm as white as the moon, I wore the colour for all the women in the world who are struggling in their cultures and societies against the dominant patriarchs that may be inhibiting their quality of life. Here's to sisterhood!



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