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Monday, 5 December 2016

A Trail of Glittering Experience

I have been recently discovering a lot of snails about my garden...

And, I, in my tendency to succumb to the seduction of a silent reverie, found myself wondering about snails, their purpose, and why they are the way they are. Why a shell? Why have they their houses on their back?
Then I thought ‘Snails are independent in a weird way’.
They rely on themselves for their shelter, their security; unattached 
to anything but themselves. 
They travel leaving only a trail of glittering experience of the path they’ve taken, despite how long it has taken them.

A snail didn’t choose to be a snail, it didn’t choose to be slow and burdened with its shell, but despite its wavering purpose in nature, it still carries itself and travels to a new place, independent of all that surrounds it, and irrespective of what humanity thinks of it.
With its beautifully grotesque shell, intricately designed by the hand of nature, the snail climbs up walls, unaware of what is before it, never questioning.
It goes on, until a bird comes and ends its insignificant life, fulfilling its purpose as a meal for its avian predecessor on the food-chain... and the world goes on.

And I think, perhaps I’m too like this snail. I, too, am burdened by an unreckonable force upon my back, that is, my Mental Health. With such a heavy burden I’m tempted to wait in hope of a winged figure to pluck me from the perils of my physical encasement on this Earth.
But, despite the weight, and the fear of an ominous shadow, I have become accustomed to it.


“despite its wavering purpose
in nature, it still carries itself
and travels to a new place, independent of all that surrounds it, and irrespective of what humanity thinks of it”
I, too, can keep going despite what humanity thinks of me. It’s only with my beautifully grotesque mind, my perseverance and struggle that I can leave my glittering trail of experience. 
Perhaps my purpose is to show that despite the weight of my mental illness, I can still travel to new places, explore new grounds and live, unattached to the stigma and social ‘impressions’ of what it means to have a Mental Health problem. To show, that despite all the odds, I can still live.
I have come out of my shell and accepted who I am.
My Mental Health disorder has conditioned me to be strong, to persevere through everything that life offers. I chose to turn something negative into something positive, so going to therapy, taking medication and working on myself holistically has taught me to realise that I can have control over how I feel.
I consider what I thought was a curse, as a blessing. I feel blessed because what was once a burden is now a monument that signifies my success through the toughest struggle that I’ve ever endured, and I’m leaving my glittering trail of experience.

Living with a Mental Health disorder doesn’t define who I am as a person. Having a Mental Health disorder does not make me any less a dreamer, any less a daughter, sister or girlfriend. Being a snail doesn’t mean it’s any less an insect. Having a Mental Health disorder means I just have something extra to deal with in my daily life.
There was a time when I considered myself ‘cursed’, questioning why I was inflicted with such mental torment, convincing myself that I was being punished.
How I perceived my Mental Health disorder is indicative of how society can penalise and ostracizes anything that is ‘abnormal’ or ‘taboo’. In the daylight hours society doesn’t blatantly outlaw those who have Mental Health issues; in fact, it encourages inclusion and well- being of everyone. It’s only in the dark corners of quiet moments, when the day has yawned and the tie is pulled off, that the other face of society looks warily from the corner of its eye upon us and wonders are we actually monsters, psychopaths and murderers like the people in those horror movies.

Society paints a sloppy picture using only limited colours to portray those with Mental Health issues. 
We deserve to be painted by our own experienced hands, we who have experienced the inner turmoil that Mental Health can cause. If each of us could choose to contribute to what Mental Health is like using our own artistic technique, our own stroke of the brush, our own unique colour upon the canvas of society, then perhaps the art depicting Mental Health wouldn’t be abstract art, but simply naturalism, a reflection of our minds, our struggles, beautiful dashes of colour with trails of glittering experience. 
We owe it to ourselves to keep going and to make our own purpose despite what nature has given us. 

Thursday, 4 June 2015

Boudoir Derry, a stylish choice.


You may have noticed that I've been uploading photos of me wearing different dresses and tagging 'Boudoir Derry'. This is because I'm currently helping out in the shop and I must say that I thoroughly enjoy seeing women come into the shop and delicately caress the materials imagining, and wondering, what it would be like on themselves. At that point I swoop over and begin a conversation about what it is they're looking for, what's the occasion and most importantly, what do they feel most comfortable in.I find that choosing a dress is making a statement about who you are, what you stand for  and conveying a message. I believe this is such an amazing way to declare your identity without saying a single word.

A particular brand that gives you creativity to work with, through their dresses, is 'Glamorous'. www.glamorous.comThis is a brand that is exclusive to 'Boudoir Derry' and one that will let you say everything you want through your choice of colour, style and material.

Below shows a few dresses from this brand ONLY available in 'Boudoir Derry' and I'm showing you how you can take a dress from this collection and make it your OWN by how you wear your hair, choose the accessories and poise. There are many more styles and variations in the shop.

Prom Princess

This beautiful dress comes in a baby blue also. Imagine this with a little netted head piece and lace gloves? It'd be the perfect 1950s style bridesmaid's dress. Have two bridesmaids, one in each colour!

Here's the gorgeous Naomi wearing the blue.




Chic boho

This boho style dress will be perfect for me for my holidays in a few weeks. Would you believe that's a necklace on my head, but I felt it was so fitting for the tribal style of the dress.
See, there are the creative juices flowing.



Do you fancy having a browse through the luxurious dresses in 'Boudoir Derry'? Then I encourage you to come up, get relaxed and let us help you pick an item that represents YOU!

Facebook Pages:Facebook.com/boudoirderry
Facebook.com/glamorous
If you want any ideas, hints or tips just message me at reddutchess22@gmail.com or mail mine or Boudoir's Facebook page  page. It'd be an honour and a pleasure to help you pick out your style of outfit.

Monday, 3 November 2014

London

I recently met up with my boyfriend in London. Having been to London before meant I didn’t really feel like touring the proverbial sites. My boyfriend and I just wanted to enjoy wander- lusting…and a little shopping of course.
I had the Friday morning to myself since my boyfriend had some work commitments. I immediately went into Whole Foods since having walked past it the night before. I've only ever heard about Whole Foods supermarket from American bloggers, so I was excited to see and explore one. Of course, in true American style, it had everything on the shelves. From the freshly laid out Technicolor fruit and vegetable stalls to the most delectable cakes, I was in supermarket heaven.





I then went for some breakfast in the oh so chic French ‘Aubaine’ where I had Eggs Benedict, and I thoroughly enjoyed every bite whilst also enjoying little intervals of sipping delicately fragranced ‘French Breakfast Tea’.  




I later met up with my boyfriend and we went exploring. I saw a double decker bus that served Afternoon tea. We also saw the Dutchess of Cambridge and Prince William leave the Royal Garden Hotel, but was unable to take photos due to the security surrounding the area.



We stayed in the gorgeous Drayton Court Hotel, and it was beautiful. It had a great rustic ‘Old English’ ambience with little subtle hints of 1920s Art Deco and a touch of modernism.  The breakfast in the mornings was a favourite as we were seated beside an open fire and treated like a King and Queen. They even had my favourite breakfast on menu, the delicious Spanish Omelette/Tortilla. 

Comfortable, Stephen?



Amazing breakfast
On the Saturday we walked outside our hotel and walked right into an Antique’s fair. As a vintage soul I had to indulge in a little dressing up and regression into the old centuries.
We stopped by the new department store, Liberty and browsed the luxurious items, especially the sunglasses. 








 
Liberty



How very chic

A personal favourite, and the sunglasses were nice too ;)

Stella McCartney sunglasses

Luxurious perfumes






We made our way to go see ‘Once’ in the West End, but not before making a little detour to Covent Garden to the renowned French Café, Ladurée, for some afternoon tea. As a lover of all things ‘Parisian’ and ‘Café Culture’ you can imagine that I was where I belonged, sipping tea and eating the most ornately created cakes and signature macaroons opposite of the most perfect gentleman, fitting for the occasion.                                









 After a beautiful time at Ladurée we made our way to the theatre.
 ‘Once’ is about modern bohemians busking on the streets of Dublin and the paths their lives take. It’s definitely worth going to see as well as watching the movie. The music in both the musical and movie is raw and real, and it reignites the audience’ appreciation for Irish talent and culture.  




My final, but important, stop was Victoria’s Secret. It recently came to London, and I couldn’t wait to find the store. After quite a chaotic walk amongst the Saturday evening crowds, I was so excited to see the precious three storey palace of the most coveted underwear in the world. 








Thank you to the Drayton Court hotel for being so accomodating, we can't wait to get back for a visit.

If you're planning to go to London be sure to stay at the Drayton, find more details on their website- The Drayton Court hotel

Thank you!

 

Wednesday, 1 October 2014

My Hydro-Facial at Elite Aesthetic Treatment Clinic


I recently posted about Elite Aesthetic Treatment Clinic and their novel approach to helping clients enhance their own beauty as opposed to changing it and trying to stop the natural aging process. 

I was looking forward to my Hydro-Facial that I was invited to enjoy by Elite.
Like I mentioned in my previous post, I was congested and lost all sense of smell and taste, not to mention my sinus pain.
So you can imagine how it was a luxury to be invited, by the lovely Sarah, a qualified beauty therapist specializing in skin and body care treatments, to go into a room that was filled with a calming ambience. With soothing music, low lighting and beautiful scented candles, I knew I was in for a treat.
I lay down on the beauty bed and was wrapped with a lovely blanket as the lights were dimmed lower. 
Sarah was using ARK products in this treatment. ARK Age Aware Skincare caters to the skin age rather than skin type. It’s divided into three segments: ‘Preparing the skin for teens to early 30s’, ‘Maintaining Age for Mid 30s to 50’ and ‘Age Repair for 50 and beyond’. 



Facial Steps

-Sarah cleansed my faced and removed all makeup (I had no time to remove my makeup prior to my appointment)
- Sarah then gently exfoliated my skin with a soothing massage technique.

-My skin was then steamed with a facial steamer, and this did absolute wonders for clearing my sinuses not to mention clearing my pores and giving my skin a good jump start.

- A mask was then applied, and by this stage I was near sleeping as Sarah worked magic with her hands massaging my face. I was left for a few minutes whilst the mask set in. 

- A few minutes later Sarah returned and gently removed the mask

-Sarah then heated oil up with her hands and applied it to my face. The oils smelled so beautiful and aromatic. These were used to firm, hydrate and nourish my skin. 

- I was then left to enjoy some time on my own, relaxing with the aromatic oils and the soothing music. It was quite the idyllic 15mins.

Since having my facial my skin has been on it's best behaviour with no breakouts. I've also noticed that my makeup applies and looks a lot better.

Thanks to Emma and Sarah at Elite for the lovely treatment, and I’ll definitely be back.

If you'd like to book yourself in for a facial, or another treatment, please have a look at their Facebook Page and Website. 

Monday, 22 September 2014

A Sunday in Nuremberg, Germany


 
Last week I posted about my Saturday in Germany, which you can read here- 'A Saturday in Nuremberg'

The following Sunday was packed full of German history and culture, and that’s what travelling is all about, right? I love to travel to experience a country in all its glory.

So the Sunday began with an amazing brunch with my boyfriend and his friends. It was a balmy autumn morning and we gladly accepted the Sun’s invitation to sit outside and enjoy his company whilst eating our numerous plates of melon, yoghurt, doughnuts, waffles, meats, cheese- aw I’m torturing myself recalling this to mind. 

Tuesday, 16 September 2014

A Saturday in Nuremberg, Germany



 
Once upon a time there was a redheaded Queen (not innocent enough to be a Princess) who travelled to ol' Bavarian Germany to spend some royal time with her monarchic counterpart.
After enduring much exchange of chariots and drinketh of tea, the Queen arrived at her Royal bae’s castle.

O.K, it wasn’t exactly as dramatic as that. The thing is that my boyfriend lives in Germany, and so I went to visit him. After arriving in Nuremberg (the city in which he lives) in Germany on a Friday night, although exhausted, we went to the most cosy bohemian Mexican place where we both had Chorizo Burritos. Delicioso!!  I mean… SCHMACKHAFT!!
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