Tuesday, 15 November 2016

Let it Go

The animated movie ‘Frozen’ craze has lasted longer than any typical Irish winter. This is primarily because it breaks the conventional Disney plot of ‘Princess meets Prince, Prince saves Princess from evil Villain, and Princess and Prince live happily ever after’.






Frozen actually empowers females, both young and old, by showing that two sisters can save each other without the need for a Prince.
The breakthrough of the advocacy of female independence in the Disney plot has seen ‘Frozen’ become one of the highest grossing animated films ever.
After watching it a few times I realised there was another reason why I loved it, and then I was hit with a whole different emotional avalanche when I discovered what it was.
I could relate my personal experience of my mental health struggles with this Disney movie.


Let me tell you why...
In Arendelle, young Princess Elsa has strong powers that enable
her to turn anything to Ice. Anna, Elsa’s younger sister adores her, and they play together until Elsa accidentally hits Anna on the head with her power and almost kills her. Their parents bring them to magic trolls in order to save Anna’s life and make her forget that her sister has any such powers. Elsa returns to the castle and shuts herself up in her room for fear of hurting Anna with her increasing power. Later, their parents die and on her coronation as Queen, Elsa is forced to open the gates of her castle to celebrate with the people. Anna meets Prince Hans at the party and wants to marry him. Elsa does not accept the marriage and loses control of her powers freezing the town of Arendelle. Elsa flees to the mountain and Anna teams up with the peasant Kristoff and his reindeer Sven and the snowman Olaf to seek out Elsa and plead with her to stop winter in July.

They find Elsa in her icy castle who tells Anna to leave due to the fear of hurting her again but she accidentally hits Anna in the heart. Only true love can save her sister from death. At the end of the movie it shows that the true love comes not from a Prince, but from the love and protection of her sister. Anna is saved as an‘act of true love that can thaw a frozen heart’ and realises that Elsa can save Arendelle.





After watching ‘Frozen’ I sat and I reflected on how remarkably well I could empathise with Elsa, an animated character with magical powers. Not that I have magical powers like Elsa, but because I too have a burden that I find hard to control.
I never thought I would be able to say that Disney, whether intentionally or not, has shed light on what it’s like to live with a mental health issue.
Elsa’s power is like our own mental health issues. We hear her power being called a “curse’’ and “sorcery’’. But it scares her, like the way we are frightened ourselves by what goes on in our minds.
Like Elsa, we don’t want to burden others and so can inadvertently hurt those closest to us. Elsa’s sister was made to forget and this brought more fear onto Elsa. As our fear grows, the negative power of our minds grow, and like Elsa, we isolate ourselves.
Similar to Elsa’s power there is a certain beauty of the mind. It’s like a snowflake, intricate but hard to understand, and can be painfully cold on us, just like ice.  
Society, like the trolls to Elsa, tells us “You must learn to control it. Fear will be your enemy.’’
Her Father tells Elsa “Conceal, don’t feel it, don’t let it show’’ which actually reinforces the belief of ‘I am different’, and causes more fear for Elsa.
There is a stigma placed on Elsa, just as there is one attached to ‘having a mental health difficulty’, which causes us to retreat from being ourselves due to fear and the belief that we are ‘different’. 
We create a prison for ourselves. Like Elsa who sits in cold ice, we sit in pain, not talking, becoming worse; sacrificing ourselves for the emotional safety of others and to bring no shame or fear.



As Elsa is expected to fulfil her duties and roles as Queen, we too, are expected to live normally. Since her parents have died we are also reminded that sometimes we are on our own to deal with our mental ill health, and that sometimes we have to rely on ourselves because others won’t understand.
During her coronation Elsa doesn’t want to take off her gloves because it will reveal what she wants to hide. Similarly, sometimes we fear having to take off our smiling masks as it may reveal our mind and our pain.
As Elsa’s power is revealed she is called a ‘monster’ by someone who doesn’t understand. She’s afraid of herself and she runs from others shouting “stay away from me’’, which reminds us that sometimes we don’t have to be told anything, we just have to see the fear and shock on other people’s faces. This causes Elsa to run away up into the mountain where she can be herself.
Elsa becomes isolated once again, she’s Queen of the kingdom of isolation but she’s happy because she is “alone and free” because society now knows and she decides to ‘let it go’. However, can we really be alone? Does the isolation not remind us of the sometimes cold and barren plain of mental illness?
We, like Elsa, feel the freedom and relief when we can be ourselves and when people know who we really are without having to hide anymore. Yet, we can become defensive and continue to push people away, but what we don’t realise is that friends and family are the ones who will actually save us. Anna’s love for Elsa makes her go up into the mountain and face obstacles to get to Elsa, and Anna tells Elsa “We’ll make the sun shine bright, we can face this thing together and everything will be alright.’’ But we don’t realise that pushing our loved ones away can actually hurt them, like Elsa hurts Anna. Over time, when things are at their worst, we realise that family and friends and people who won’t let us go are the people with the magic that saves us, and their “act of true love can thaw a frozen heart.”



We can be strong like Queen Elsa, but we’re stronger with our loved ones around us. We shouldn’t let society and its ideals of personality and pretences of sanity scare us from being who we truly are. We shouldn’t hide and we shouldn’t think we’re different, because we’re unique.

We soon realise that the support of those around us is actually stronger than the power of our mental illness, and that kind of support is magical. Just ‘Let it go... and rise like the break of dawn’’





Friday, 11 November 2016

Styling with Boudoir


Today in 'Boudoir Derry' I decided to take a few of the pieces and style them in a multitude of ways to suit any age, occasion and personality.
You will see that I show how one item, like the neon orange shirt, can be worn with many different colours and styles, thus proving how versatile these pieces, all available at 'Boudoir Derry' can be.

I hope you enjoy the outfits that I've styled and do know that there are many more pieces in the boutique!

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Thursday, 4 June 2015

Boudoir Derry, a stylish choice.


You may have noticed that I've been uploading photos of me wearing different dresses and tagging 'Boudoir Derry'. This is because I'm currently helping out in the shop and I must say that I thoroughly enjoy seeing women come into the shop and delicately caress the materials imagining, and wondering, what it would be like on themselves. At that point I swoop over and begin a conversation about what it is they're looking for, what's the occasion and most importantly, what do they feel most comfortable in.I find that choosing a dress is making a statement about who you are, what you stand for  and conveying a message. I believe this is such an amazing way to declare your identity without saying a single word.

A particular brand that gives you creativity to work with, through their dresses, is 'Glamorous'. www.glamorous.comThis is a brand that is exclusive to 'Boudoir Derry' and one that will let you say everything you want through your choice of colour, style and material.

Below shows a few dresses from this brand ONLY available in 'Boudoir Derry' and I'm showing you how you can take a dress from this collection and make it your OWN by how you wear your hair, choose the accessories and poise. There are many more styles and variations in the shop.

Prom Princess

This beautiful dress comes in a baby blue also. Imagine this with a little netted head piece and lace gloves? It'd be the perfect 1950s style bridesmaid's dress. Have two bridesmaids, one in each colour!

Here's the gorgeous Naomi wearing the blue.




Chic boho

This boho style dress will be perfect for me for my holidays in a few weeks. Would you believe that's a necklace on my head, but I felt it was so fitting for the tribal style of the dress.
See, there are the creative juices flowing.



Do you fancy having a browse through the luxurious dresses in 'Boudoir Derry'? Then I encourage you to come up, get relaxed and let us help you pick an item that represents YOU!

Facebook Pages:Facebook.com/boudoirderry
Facebook.com/glamorous
If you want any ideas, hints or tips just message me at reddutchess22@gmail.com or mail mine or Boudoir's Facebook page  page. It'd be an honour and a pleasure to help you pick out your style of outfit.

Wednesday, 13 May 2015

The Streets of Bavarian Germany

You'll find that when you go to Nuremberg, Germany there is an overwhelming beauty in everything, from the architecture to the food. A city steeped in Bavarian history, you'd be mistaken for thinking it was a film set from a Christmas movie, or a little cuckoo clock scene.
I've been to Nuremberg a lot of times and this time I went for my boyfriend's birthday as he lives there. As a vintage soul, I was delighted to discover that there was an antique market taking place all weekend. So I'm sharing with you the beautiful aspects of the city and all that the markets had to offer! 
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My other blog posts from my previous trips to Nuremberg can be found Here 1 , Here 2  and Here 3

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